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What it Means and How to Overcome It.

Everyone experiences loneliness at one time or another in their lifetime.
You can be in a relationship and feel alone.
You can be in a crowd and feel alone.
Loneliness is a feeling of being excluded from a group.
Loneliness is feeling unloved or alienated from your surroundings.
Loneliness can mean that there is no one with whom you can share your personal concerns and experiences.
Loneliness can mean you find it difficult to make friends.

Some of the Negative Effects of Loneliness are:

• Low self-esteem.

• A feeling that nobody likes you.

• Expectation of others to include you in their activities and

   conversations and if they don't you may become withdrawn, angry or isolated.

• A feeling that others are always evaluating you.

• You have difficulty setting boundaries for yourself and standing up for your rights.
  You might avoid meeting new people or attending any public events.

• You become overly critical of your looks and personality traits.

• You feel isolated, alone and unhappy a lot of the time.

Eight ways to overcome Loneliness and bring more happiness
into your life.

1. Do some volunteer work.
   Helping others will boost your self-esteem and create new opportunities to meet people with similar interests.

2. Get involved in Church or Community activities

3. Start making the first step in greeting people. Smile and say "Hello"

4. Take the initiative and call someone and ask him or her to meet you for coffee.

5. Don't judge people on the basis of your past experiences.
   Keep an open mind when meeting someone new and show interest in them.
   Don't make assumptions about how they will perceive you.

6. Take some adult education courses that are based on personal growth.
   For example look for classes that teach self-esteem development,
   forgiveness, how to be more assertive, how to mingle, how to become a positive thinker.

7. When you are alone listen to self-help books on tape.
   Get some videotapes that offer seminars on personal growth.
   You will feel a part of the audience as you listen to the trainers and instructors on these cassette tapes.

8. There are many organizations that provide opportunities for their members to socialize and network for new friends and social companions.

這篇文章是我上網google到的，轉載自 http://www.positive-way.com/loneline.htm

　　看完這些文字之後，我自己又再次確定了自己對寂寞和孤單這兩個字的定義：
孤單(alone)是指一個人獨處、身旁沒有人陪伴；
寂寞(loneliness)是即使在很多人之中，卻還是會覺得沒有人懂自己、有很深刻的“不被了解”的感覺。